We desire to live a happy and fulfilling life. If we hold on to anything negative from the past, we carry the offender’s actions into the present, reliving them every time we remember and are unwilling to forgive. This means we are giving the offender free access to inflict pain on us repeatedly. No matter how difficult the experience may have been, we must ask: “Why are we holding on?

When we are aware of ourselves, we shift from the mental doing mode to our intuitive mind “being” mode.  When we are in a state of being, whatever we are doing, we are doing it at this moment, without comparison. This is often referred to as “being in the flow.” Once we are in a “flow,” our actions become effortless and tensionless, because they come from an inner knowing.